Cleveland, Ohio -I received this email from Frank (not his real name):
“My wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s early in 2017. She was only in her mid -50s. I have been taking care of myself at home for six years. For the past two years, she was in a nursing home after a seizure and stroke. I was with Wendy every day in a nursing home.”
Frank had more details about his story, but the important part is this question.
You can also add this question. How will it end?
This is not about Alzheimer’s. It is about all types of long -term situations, such as stroke, Parkinson’s bottles, and cancer.
It is time for you to be involved in serious things and how long it will last or how it will affect you.
I have experienced some long -term treatment and I don’t know one of the most difficult parts.
For Frank, he hears the word “dementia”. Then he listens to “Alzheimer’s.” He can talk to a doctor. He can read it. But who can know how worse and how it is handled?
John sent an email on how to take care of his wife with Alzheimer and operated a support group.
“One of my biggest disappointment is to spend hundreds of millions of dollars and hundreds of millions of dollars that we try to find the cause and treatment for decades, and it’s still not close.The people who deal with this problem are not effective when they return to the picture board, and when they return to the picture board, the family is so painful.
The same applies to other diseases. Desperate people listen to the test of new drugs. Or they have heard about certain homogeneous therapy. I like ideas for various vitamins and natural supplements that help deal with some symptoms of some conditions, but it’s cruel to market miracles.
Who is the caregiver?
According to Family care alliance, “A typical American caregiver is a 46-year-old woman who works outside the house and offers unpaid nursing to her mother for more than 20 hours a week. Most caregivers are married or live with their partners. The caregiver can be found over the age, but most caregivers are middle-aged (35-64 years old).”
But the truth is that they are men and women. I often hear from men to take care of my mother or wife from this situation. Many caregivers are as old as those who are treated.
“Many caregivers of the elderly are in itself. Family Nursing Alliance. “The average caregiver is 63 years old among those who are 65 years old. One -third of this caregiver is fair for poor health.”
This is because the caregiver is in physical, emotional and spiritual battles. They often ignore their health because they are worse for caring.
When I visited the nursing home for several years, I met two men there after I was injured to care for my wife. One broke the butt and the other was shattered. Two times, they tried to help my wife got up after his wife fell.
They are often exhausted.
JOE Tait’s story
This story started with Frank’s email. He spent seven hours a day in a nursing home with his wife. Yes, he can do that. But I suggest you cut that time in half and spend more time on your health.
The former CAVS broadcaster Joe Tait has endured a similar situation. His wife was Alzheimer’s. He has put her at home for several years. He suffered a different injury from the knee problem as he tried to take care of her.
After putting her in a memory care device, he began to spend with her all day. He was tired physically and mentally. He finally spent a few hours that had dinner with her every night.
Then Tate faced cancer and kidney problems. He died at the age of 83 on March 10, 2021. His wife died at the age of 85 on March 1, 2023.
Tait said, “I have not known my name for the last few years.” Sometimes I was ‘husband’. Most of them, I came to see her. ”
Many people are related to the story.
Second expert
I think there are two kinds of courage. One was immediately decision to rescue someone from the crisis and lined up life.
The other is what happens for months and years, like a caring. It deals with doubt: Are we the best doctor? Proper medicine? Correct therapy?
In fact, we can make all “right” decisions and things can still be wrong.
I know that many people know much more about caring than me. Some of them had to deal with the second guess of other families.
I was eventually the medical power of a lawyer for a person who passed away. But I talked with many caregivers who were guilty of others in a side job. They have a lot of opinions but do not want to be responsible.
My advice is, “Tell them to take over and hand them.”
It usually closes them.
Big battle
In the mid -1990s, I kneeled when I dealt with my father’s stroke. I had a lot of help, but it was completely overwhelming in dealing with medical and finances.
Often I found that I lived in 1 Corinthians 5: 7. “We walk with faith, not vision.”
As a friend told me early when my father had a stroke, “Terry, do you not get it? Life is hard. You go through it with God or without God. Take your choice.”
A bad person will remind us of mistakes about care. We will meet the negative people who love us in misery. Even if we mean to break what we thought of friendship we thought, we must avoid them.
According to Caregiver Alliance, the average nursing service lasts for 4.3 years. Less than 20% lasts more than 10 years.
I know that some of you are in this situation. I would like to write a follow -up measure called “Tips for Career”. Keep it short. I will use your name. Put the caregiver in the title line terrypluto1234@gmail.com
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